The Art of “Passing It Down” Was Broken

When I got married back in 1990, I didn’t know the first thing about registry lists, bridal showers, and wedding gifts. Yes, I grew up watching my mother flawlessly entertain, but I never threw my party, never purchased my dishes, and never even gave stocking my kitchen a second thought.

I feel so fortunate that I had a mother that had a passion to plan, cook and entertain, and passed it down to her girls, and most times, she had to do it on a very tight budget. She learned it from her mother and her grandmothers. It was passed down from generations past, but at some point … something was broken in our world.

Everyone has their tastes, and I am truly happy to see so many people cooking, entertaining, and finding their “voice” in their kitchen and home.

My theory is that my generation is the last generation of children to have moms that stayed home either full time or part-time and taught their daughters how to cook, take care of their home, and practice true hospitality. I feel that for whatever reason, women either chose to or had to go into the work force. Whether to begin their path in a desired career or to bring in a second income (as is required in this day and age), moms have had to wear so many hats: the race to work, put their kids in day care, run a race of carpools, school drop-offs, after school sports and commitments, homework helpers, cupcake bakers, laundry, cleaning, yard work… cooking and entertaining are by far the last things a mom has time to think of, let alone teach her kids.

In my twenty-six years (this June) of marriage, I can soundly say that I’ve seen two and a half decades of women that for the most part, don’t know how to cook. Of course, there are exceptions — there always are, but this tells me one thing. At some point… the art of “Passing it Down” was broken. But then… Cooking boomed in Magazines! Then on TV! Then on the Internet! Then on Pinterest! And now? Women, men, teens, children, EVERYONE is cooking! It’s so exciting!

Everyone has their tastes, and I am truly happy to see so many people cooking, entertaining, and finding their “voice” in their kitchen and home. But still, some have never learned the basics of cooking, have never given a thought to how to stock their kitchen and pantry, and are intimidated by the thought of what to put on their registry once they are engaged. Don’t be intimidated! We’re going to work through this together! And it’s going to be fun!!!

Just remember… Entertaining might be intimidating your first time, but it’s not always going to be like that. You soon will find that it’s fun, exciting… and it’s where friendships are bonded, the family is strengthened, laughter is loud, games are played, secrets are shared, and tons of fun is had by all.

Categorized as Family

By Charlotte M

Being able to laugh at the end of an “unsuccessful’” day and being okay with not managing to “do it all”. It rocks!

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